He who binds himself to joy, does the winged life destroy.

The Courage to Let Go

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Stepping Into the New Year

by Robert “Dusty” Staub

For over forty years it has been my life work to help people claim their purpose, passion, power and true presence in this world.  I have had the honor and privilege of working with individuals, families, teams, organizations and communities in actualizing this guiding purpose.  Let me share, briefly, what I have seen and why the Courage to Let Go matters so much.

When the root is deep, there is no need to fear the wind. - Chinese Proverb

When I was in private practice as a licensed marital and family therapist, I saw many people who were holding on to old grievances, wounds, resentments, anger and fear.  They had coalesced their identities around these past pains to such a degree that it sucked up much of their life force, keeping them stuck in well-worn ruts of sub-optimal patterns of reacting, responding, perceiving and thinking.

Whether it was a man holding on to the memory of a woman who had divorced him ten years earlier, entangled in the pain, the resentment, the longing or whether it was a woman holding on to an old relationship and unwilling to move on, it caused a relentless sense of loss, pain, grief and diminishment.

When I worked in Mental Health System inpatient wards and outpatient clinics, as well as in Drug and Alcohol treatment centers, I saw the same thing repeated over and over.  People were clinging to old definitions of self, to old hurts, sorrows and losses.

Subsequently they stayed stuck in patterns that brought only pain for themselves, their families and those around them.  People were attached to the “stories” of their life. These were stories that did not lead to release and freedom, but instead justified staying stuck and even righteous about patterns of limitation.  As the old saying goes…

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Be Your Best Self During the Holidays

Be Your Best Self During the Holidays

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by Wayne Scott Gerber, MSPH, President of Sungate Advisors, and Robert “Dusty” Staub, CEO of Staub Leadership and co-Founder, The Acts of Courage.

In theory, holidays are a time when we are exempt from the daily grind.

A time to replace the habitual stresses of living and relax with our family and friends.

In reality, our “holiday spirit” experience is often disturbed by a different stress, the one that can come from being in extended proximity with family. Many of us expect or believe that our “best self” needs to be on display, yet this is challenging because our “best self” co-habitates in our mind with our “normal self.”

There is often a struggle as to which “self” gets to make an appearance.  After all, it takes courage to see the true Current Reality as well as the Courage to Learn and Grow and the Courage to Act on insights to do our best.

Be Your Best Self During the Holidays

And the expectation that our best self be in charge is all too often sabotaged by some unconscious “spells.”  As explained in our book Dynamic Focus: Creating Significance and Breaking the Spells of Limitation, there is a “spell” when any unconscious mental habit of thinking and perceiving takes control of our mind and subverts our best intentions through subtle thoughts, beliefs and assumptions.

When this happens we feel we have either lost control, or we end up acting and relating with those around us in a way contrary to the intention of our “best self.”

One particularly powerful spell that we see is that of “Confirmation Bias.”

This is when we see what we expect to see by organizing information to fit a pre-conceived assumption. This includes cherry picking the information that fits our assumptions and expectations, while excluding that which does not. Challenges show up in numerous ways.

One of these is when families get together and there is unresolved tension between any of the members. Everyone tries to make nice and to bring his or her best self forward, but when one thing is said or done that confirms the source of tension, holiday togetherness can become hell on earth.

It does not always require someone else to trigger the “anti-holiday spirit” spell.

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The Courage to Live with Fire

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A Conversation with best-selling author HeatherAsh Amara.

HeatherAsh Amara

Last week, we sat down with HeatherAsh Amara, best-selling author, speaker, and Warrior Goddess, about what it means to connect with your inner fire and courageously live an authentic life of your own creation. This is our conversation…


AOC: Thank you so much for taking the time to talk with us today. Awaken Your Inner Fire is a remarkable book. Could you start by explaining what you mean by “inner fire”, and why connecting with your inner fire is so vital to living an authentic life of purpose and passion?

HeatherAsh: Your inner fire is your passion and your creativity. It’s your life force energy. I like to think about it this way: Let’s say you have a computer that’s made from the most up-to-date hardware and loaded with the best software. It’s an amazing computer, but if it’s not plugged into an energy source, nothing’s going to happen. Our inner fire is our energy source. The more power we have running through our system, and the more we’re plugged into our potential and our creativity, the more we’re going to be able to manifest to our world.

The message in Awaken Your Fire is really around bringing your attention back inside to listen for thoughts and actions that are dampening your fire, and the thoughts and actions that will ignite your fire and make you brighter. Coming back into relationship with this vital power source can help guide us in knowing what actions to take to create a life that will serve us the most.

Your inner fire is your passion and creativity. It's your life fore energy. - HeatherAsh Amara

AOC: In the book, you speak a lot about creativity. What would you say to those people who believe that they simply aren’t creative?

HeatherAsh: I believe we are all creative people. When you begin working with your inner fire, you start to recognize that every action you take is creative. The more that you come into alignment with what your truth is – with what’s authentic for YOU – the more creative you are able to be. This is especially true in how we respond to obstacles.

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Win a Copy of Awaken Your Inner Fire

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Ignite Your Passion, Find Your Purpose, and Create the Life That You Love

by HeatherAsh Amara

Awaken Your Inner Fire

HeatherAsh Amara is a best selling author, speaker, and Warrior Goddess, who travels the world working with groups of women to integrate the feminine wisdom of the ancients into their modern lives.

Awaken Your Inner Fire will show you how to connect with the vital energy within you, the unseen force that gives life to your being. Perhaps because this energy can’t be measured in a lab, many people live without any idea of its existence, or the importance of tending to it.

In this groundbreaking book, best-selling author HeatherAsh Amara introduces you to the fundamentals of your Inner Fire, and explains how the four major aspects of your being – the mental, spiritual, emotional, and physical – all interact with this powerful energy.

Amara teaches that when you view these four aspects through the lens of your Inner Fire, you can radically change how you think, feel, and live in the world. In this audiobook, you’ll find practices, meditations, and explorations to put the concepts to work in your life.

HeatherAsh AmaraBy tending to your Inner Fire, you will learn how to:

  • Find your true work in the world, regardless of any job you do or role you play.
  • Use your Inner Fire as your own personal North Star, allowing it to guide you when making important decisions.
  • Move beyond busyness, stress, and overwhelm and live in joyous creation
  • Implement a new daily practice to live in balance no matter what life brings.

Learning how to tend your Inner Fire in a world that is constantly trying to hook your attention is a challenge – but this book invites you to take new perspective on who you are and how you relate to the world.

Here’s how to win a copy of Awaken Your Inner Fire by HeatherAsh Amara:

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The Acts of Courage Movie Club – Christmas Movies!

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“It’s a Wonderful Life” and “A Christmas Carol”

About the Acts of Courage Movie Club: Movies  have the ability to transplant us into someone else’s story so that we might see the world as they do. This not only helps us relate to  people of all ages, backgrounds, cultures, and circumstances, but helps us understand ourselves better. Great movies connect us with the truth of who we are and the world in which we live, while simultaneously awakening our imagination to new possibilities.

The Acts of Courage Movie Club is a collection of movies we found to be particularly insightful in how we act – and don’t act – with courage. Just like a good book club, we’ve compiled a list of thought provoking questions designed to fuel conversation and further your own introspection.

So grab the remote and a bucket of popcorn and join us as we explore the ways courage permeates our world through the artistry of a really good flick.

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Transformational Moments: Birthing Joy

Stories – good ones – are powerful, living entities that engage the heart and mind by inspiring, uplifting, stoking courage, evoking awe, offering insights and guidance. As human beings we are shaped by the stories we are told as well as the stories that we tell.

For thousands of years our ancestors sat in the dark of nights in a world that was lit only by fire. It was around those fires that meals were cooked and stories were told. It has been said that stories, just like fire, are part and parcel of the human DNA.

In the past century, movies have become a powerful new way of telling stories to encourage the heart and inspire more authentic, joyful ways of living. Through recorded images, music and words, stories can be repeated exactly every time they are told.

Yet according to the age, life experience and momentary circumstance of the viewer, movies are never quite received as the same story, even when seen more than once. As with all stories, movies can uplift or bore, frighten or inspire us. They can inform us of what it means to be a whole human being or present a cautionary message about what happens when we lose our way.

In this holiday season of celebrations and reunions, which may include remembering and grieving lost loved ones as well as reconnecting and healing important family ties, movies can be an especially potent way of moving deeper into more meaningful living.

In fact…

The right movies can help to transform our way of thinking, perceiving and being in the world.

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The Courage to Choose Happiness

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A Conversation About Courage, Happiness, and Seeing the Good

Last week, Dusty Staub, best selling author of The 7 Acts of Courage, spoke with Leeza Carlone Steindorf about what it means to know the goodness of who you are, and see the good inherent in others, and in the world.

Leeza is an Executive Coach, Strategic Planning Facilitator, Organizational and Personal Transformation Specialist, and the Award-Wining Author of Connected Parent Empowered Child: Five Key to Raising Happy, Confident, Responsible Kids.

This is their conversation…

Dusty: Thank you so much for talking with me today, Leeza. Would you tell our readers a bit about you and your work? 

Leeza: I am a tour guide for my clients.  I help them claim an outstanding life, both personally and professionally.  In my work, I help people open their eyes to who they are and what they are capable of being and doing.

I coach, facilitate groups, offer trainings and strategic planning in corporations, and work with parents and educational institutions.  In the process of doing this, I help people to get clear.  A client called me a “laser beam”: I am able to bring great focus, clarity and illumination to a person, situation or organization.

Similar to what Theresa Nicassio illustrated with her story of the Golden Buddha when you interviewed her a few weeks ago, my work unearths the hidden treasures that have been buried, not only in an individual but also at the organizational level.  Personally, I delight in life. I have a tremendous sense of awe and a way of being that proceeds from this and that underlines all I do.

Dusty: What is your relationship to Courage?

Leeza: I am someone who has had the courage to reinvent myself, more than once. I grew up in a violent home environment and so I created a defensive structure to survive. Later I found that the angry and unhappy patterns that I had learned to move with did not work out in the world.

They simply did not work for the life I wanted for myself.  As a result of that awareness, I had to reinvent myself in order to be more effective.  Then in my family life, when my marriage ended, I had to do similar inner work to recast myself.

Next, when I experienced challenges in business, reinvention was required yet again.

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I can tell you from my personal experience that happiness is a choice.  By “happiness” I mean a deeply rooted sense of ease and comfort in myself.  This is not based on circumstances; it is how you run your mind and orient your perceptions.

It is possible to be happy anywhere.  When you make it dependent upon circumstances or on the behavior of others, your happiness is always at risk.  The way you look at things, the meaning you give to things, determines your experiences, perceptions and, indeed the worldview you have.  Happiness is possible anywhere and under any circumstances. 

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Financial Well-Being and the Family

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A Conversation About Financial Well-Being and the Future of Your Family.

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Last week, Dusty Staub, best selling author of The 7 Acts of Courage, spoke with Gary Stone to talk about what it means to create financial well-being as a family.

Gary is a Researcher, Investor, Best Selling Author of Blueprint to Wealth: Financial Freedom in 15 Minutes a Week, and Founder of fixmynestegg.com.

This is their conversation…

Dusty: Thank you so much for talking with me today Gary. Before we get started, would you tell our readers a bit about you and what you do for a living? 

Gary: I am a husband and father with three children, as well as a long-distance runner and a low single figure golfer. What I do for a living is to help individuals and family create wealth.

I am a businessman and run a financial services company. For more than 22 years, I have helped people create financial freedom.

Dusty: How is What You Do Different from Other Financial Advisors?

Gary: We are called a ‘financial advising’ company but we are very different to what most would think of when they hear the term “financial advisor” or “financial planner”. The chief difference is that we help people be directly engaged in the stock market with a process and set of tools that help them experience success.

We help people develop an effective plan using a structured process and then teach them how to manage it in a rigorous manner that takes only fifteen minutes of attention each week, once the plan is completed.

Most financial advisors look at your entire financial situation and then on the management needs of your debts, credit cards, insurance policies, qualified retirement plans, asset allocation, etc. The asset classes that they would have you invest in would be stocks, mutual funds, target date funds, bonds, real estate, cash or other such investments.

Instead of all of that, we focus specifically on the stock market. When people realize their investments are not up to snuff then we show them how to grow their wealth by being the key decision makers on what to buy, when to be out or in the market and how much to invest in exchange traded funds, stocks and/or cash. It is a self-directed process and the person as an investor is making the decision.

Dusty: What is your experience working with families? Where does the conflict over finances come and where do they most need courage?

Gary: In my experience over the years, many families live beyond their means; there is more going out than is coming in each month and this leaves no room to make the investments for future well-being, for building wealth.

This is a place of great conflict within the families that I have worked with. It is a dimension of family life that generates misunderstanding, great anxiety, and needless pain. Part of the process of minimizing this conflict is learning to have the Courage to Face the Current Reality, to notice key imbalances in the family’s financial life, and then address these through a thoughtful, organized, and agreed-upon systematic process.

This means having the courage to engage in the difficult conversations about how to manage money in a way that takes care of today AND also addresses generating well-being and freedom for the future. This is essential.

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How to deal with family conflict during the holidays

Courage Does Not Take a Holiday

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A Conflict Survival Guide for Families During the Holidays

by Robert “Dusty” Staub

The holidays are rapidly approaching.  For many, this is a time for celebration, connection with family and friends, and expressions of love and gratitude. Paradoxically, during the holidays we also see increased depression, anxiety, tension and conflict.

What is going on?  What is behind this paradox?

Having  been trained as a Marital and Family Therapist, I have had the opportunity to observe these dynamics in depth with my clients, as well as to explore them first hand with my own family. Old wounds, unresolved jealousies, frozen perceptions, and unrealistic expectations – these are part of a recipe for disappointment, hurt and unnecessary pain.

Ironically, conflict can happen even when, deep down, family members truly care for each other. Often there is an attempt to suppress what we are really thinking or feeling because we don’t want to threaten family ties. But invariably we show our true colors, and by then it doesn’t always come out diplomatically!

A “survival guide” for dealing with family dynamics during the holidays.

Later in this post, I’ll share a useful conflict survival guide that can help you successfully navigate difficult family situations – especially during the holidays. This guide can also serve as a roadmap for greater happiness in key relationships year-round. In my personal experience, courage is especially important when we move into the holiday season and are going to be spending extended time with family members.

First, there is the Courage to be Open and Vulnerable

Not as a victim, but as someone who loves and is willing to seek to understand versus to defend.

The courage to be open and vulnerable

In fact, the biggest mistake most family members make when they hear something they don’t like, or feel offended or hurt by, is to become defensive.  The instant you start to defend yourself against what someone has said, you have already lost.

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Children, Community, and Courage

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Courage and Parenting Series, Part 1

By Christine Staub, M.D.

It takes courage to raise a child.

Parenting requires the Courage to be Vulnerable, to Love unconditionally. Consciously forging into parenting with expectations of great joy, while staying open to grief and pain, is a parenting reality.

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Raising a young person well is perhaps the most important task humans engage in. Prospective parents are saying “yes” to the unknown, the unexpected, even the unwanted. This may not be a welcome message, yet now that I am the mother of three and grandparent of two, I wish I could have used some of the parenting wisdom I gained over the years back when I needed it most.

I can safely say that everything I’ve learned about being an honorable human being and a warrior of Spirit has been forged in the fire of my relationships with my son and two daughters.  I’ve had to access many different acts of courage to help me be the best parent possible. Heaven knows!  I’ve made plenty of mistakes along the way.

That’s the part of parenting that requires having the Courage to Learn and Grow.

In fact, although at age 30 I was a relatively older first-time parent, I didn’t feel fully adult until I was in my mid-40’s.  I thank the lessons my children taught me, and still teach me, for most of that.

It takes community to raise a child.

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The Acts of Courage Movie Club – Dunkirk

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About the Acts of Courage Movie Club: Movies  have the ability to transplant us into someone else’s story so that we might see the world as they do. This not only helps us relate to  people of all ages, backgrounds, cultures, and circumstances, but helps us understand ourselves better. Great movies connect us with the truth of who we are and the world in which we live, while simultaneously awakening our imagination to new possibilities.

The Acts of Courage Movie Club is a collection of movies we found to be particularly insightful in how we act – and don’t act – with courage. Just like a good book club, we’ve compiled a list of thought provoking questions designed to fuel conversation and further your own introspection.

So grab the remote and a bucket of popcorn and join us as we explore the ways courage permeates our world through the artistry of a really good flick.

The Acts of Courage Movie Club - Dunkirk

Dunkirk is a Powerful Exploration of Leadership and Why a Title is Not Enough.

Acts of Courage Co-Founder Christine Staub recently wrote a beautiful blog post about the impact the movie Dunkirk had on her and her thoughts about what makes a leader.

“In times of war, not all leaders wear uniforms, and not all those in uniform act like leaders. This message is beautifully portrayed in Christopher Nolan’s 2017 movie Dunkirk.  Using sparse dialogue, evocative music and carefully selected imagery, Nolan recounts the almost miraculous World War II evacuation of over 330,000 allied soldiers trapped by the advancing Germans on France’s North Shore.”

You can read Christine’s post about Dunkirk here.


Dunkirk offers powerful illustrations of courage – and the lack thereof – in a tremendously wide range of characters.

As you watch, here are some questions for thought and discussion:

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