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False Choice and the Failure of Imagination

Dusty Staub Courage to be Confronted, Courage to Learn and Grow 3 Comments

Do you know a false choice when you see one?

Failure of imagination is one of the most significant sources of pain in life.  When your range of perception narrows to a digital, “either-or” response, it can easily lead to a sense of entrapment, even to despair.  Living out of this kind of tunnel vision quickly collapses the possibility for fresh, new perspectives.

By activating The Courage to Learn and Grow and also The Courage to be Confronted, you can harness creativity toward fresh, novel action steps.

False choice is a failure of imagination | theactsofcourage.com

Perceptions dictate your choices.

Your perceptions govern the choices you are able to conceive, and therefore to move from. Old mental patterns can severely limit your perceptions.  They can act like “spells” – repetitive incantations that create a cage around your imaginative powers, chaining them to sub-optimal ways of perceiving, thinking, reacting and being.

These cognitive patterns, or mental habits, inevitably lead to what my colleague Wayne Gerber and I call “false choice.”  False choice is what you are left with when the doors of perception are slammed shut by limited ways of thinking and conceiving.

You can see the misery of false choice all around you: at work, at home, in society.  Conflicts between polarities are all over front page news, instead of a focus on common ground and novel solutions.   Making a forced choice out of limited perception so often leads to less than joyful outcomes.

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Courage to Face the Truth

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Powerful Questions that Just Might Change Your Life

Power Questions #3 and #4: How to bridge the gaps and face the truth.

Part 3 in a series devoted to four power questions that can dramatically change your life.

In 35 years of experience as a family and marital therapist, organizational leadership consultant and life coach, I have repeatedly used the following 4 power questions for focused inquiry that often produces life changing results.

Power Question #1:What are the top 1 or 2 things to CELEBRATE?”

Power Question #2:What is the ONE thing MISSING that, if added, would make the biggest difference?”

Answering these two questions lets you build on strengths, giving you a strong leg up in life while also bringing into focus the critical “missing” piece that can significantly leverage what is already working for you.

In this post, we’ll dive into power questions 3 and 4.

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Things which matter most must never be at the mercy of things which matter least. | theactsofcourage.com

Courage to Choose the Most Important Things

Dusty Staub Courage to Act 2 Comments

Powerful Questions that Just Might Change Your Life.

Power Question #2: How to prioritize your life around the Most Important Things

Last week, I introduced the first of four power questions. Here is a second power question that can transform your life:

“What is the ONE thing that is missing that, if added, would make the biggest positive difference in my life / relationship / work /organization?”

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Be courageous enough to see the good. Powerful questions to change your life. | theactsofcourage.com

Be Courageous Enough To See The Good

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Powerful Questions that Just Might Change Your Life.

Power Question #1: The courage to see the good.

It has been said that a powerful question can change your life more than a thousand answers.  In my 35 years of experience as a family and marital therapist, organizational leadership consultant and life coach, I have found this to be true.

As my mentor Dr. James Farr would often say, asking a powerful question helps to “aim the mind” toward solutions that are, in fact, on target.  Knowing the right question to ask in a particular situation or moment in your life can be transformative and liberating. It’s not an exaggeration to say that powerful questions can change your life.

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